The concept of people walking around sporting these invisible red flags is becoming increasingly popular. Red flags in a girl are something that exists just as much as it does in men; let’s just set that straight, it goes both ways. Red flags are issues with all humans equally, just as some people have trouble cleaning their butt properly, many people have what is considered red flags.
Even though we all have red flags, today, we’re only be looking at red flags in a girl that one should keep an eye out for. Men, I’ll get to you in the next article (evil chuckle). Red flags in a girl are things that you would want to notice before you commit yourself to a serious relationship with her. Of course, this doesn’t always happen so occasionally you might find yourself in a relationship with a girl and she starts exhibiting behavior that no one ever signed up for!
Being in a relationship with a girl who shows multiple red flags can be mentally exhausting, annoying, and sometimes downright maddening. Even though the flags are red, sometimes red flags in a girl are not so obvious and that’s why today I’m going to make you aware of common red flags in a girl that you should watch out for.
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She’s Grossed Out When You Cry
My girlfriend came up with this red flag because she’s one of those things herself; a girl. This is one of those things that just screams that I have no respect for you as a person or a man. Simply because you’re a male you’re supposed to be an emotionless machine that can’t produce tears? Nah, it takes balls to cry as a man. Don’t let a girl tell you that it’s pathetic to cry. If that’s her stance on it, run for the hills and don’t look back.
It does happen, there are girls like that out there who will shame you and see you differently if you cry in front of them. If a girl can’t handle you crying, you should ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with a person harboring that mindset? It’s one of the biggest red flags in a girl for her to lose love and respect for you upon seeing tears emerge from your eyeballs.
She’s Always Screaming at You
There are only so many times that she can blame her repeated screaming at you on period mood swings and ‘having a bad day’ before you start to question how much a girl likes you. Is it so easy to yell at the one who you’re supposed to love? It’s not easy at all and if she is always screaming at you you might be seeing one of the red flags in a girl that you should look out for. It shows that she gets angry at you quickly and easily which might mean that she is becoming fed up with you for whatever reason.
If your partner is going through some sh*t that doesn’t give them a good reason to scream at you all of the time. Sure, an outburst maybe once a month or so isn’t so bad, but every day or every other day is just a bit too much, I mean come on.
Of course, she may have a good reason to scream at you. If you’re being a wanker and flicking boogers on her all of the time then no DUH that she’ll be screaming at you all of the time. The red flag occurs only when she’s screaming at you unprovoked.
Note: screaming may become a gateway for biting so it’s best not to take this red flag lightly! An honorable mention that didn’t make the list of red flags in a girl is when she bites you, where I wrote about that whole can of worms in a different but related article a couple weeks back.
Always Asks for Money / Bad Spending Habits
One of the more worrisome red flags in a girl is when she has no respect for money or has any concept of saving money. Unless you’re already Jeff Bezos you’ll want a partner who either has some sort of income or doesn’t leech off of your hard-earned cash.
Not only will your financial livelihood die a slow and painful death, she’ll leave you when you run out of money. In the end, you’ll be left poor, single, depressed, and filled with regret. Doesn’t sound like a good time, huh? Don’t let it get to that point and make it be known to her early on about your expectations concerning money. If she cannot respect your wishes in this matter, she borrows without paying you back and things like that, her red flags in a girl are showing and she’s telling you to run.
In these situations she is telling you who she is so you should listen to her and end it before she squeezes another Benjamin out of you. If you’re into blowing money on your girl that’s fair enough, but you might want to make sure she still has respect for you at the same time. Many girls won’t feel okay with using your money because they see a future with you and want to work as a team, you know, doing the whole relationship thing where you behave in a financially responsible way.
She Never Cleans Up After Herself
Y’all both need to clean; but if she NEVER cleans, run for the freaking hills. Someone who does not have the willpower and standards to clean up their clothes pile and moldy food bowls from last week needs to get a grip. I don’t care how depressed you are, make yourself move and do the bare minimum at least. It sounds harsh, but that can’t be your life on the regular for an extended period of time.
I’ve been the most depressed person that you’ve ever known for a long time. It’s much better now but I do know what it’s like and that it’s not as simple as ‘just doing things’, but you have to make an effort.
It puts so much burden on the other person and it makes it look like you don’t give a crap about the relationship or your partner. Sure, everyone goes through rough patches and that’s okay, pick up their slack for a bit while they sort themselves out but it can’t go on forever!
She’s Always on Her Phone
Being on your phone religiously is one of the largest red flags in a girl in my opinion because it implies multiple red flags in one single action. The act of your girlfriend or a girl you’re interested in always having her face buried in the phone can mean a few things. It could mean that she’s not very interested in you, she’s addicted to social media, addicted to her phone, has low ambition, puts her phone ahead of you, etc., you get the point.
It doesn’t automatically mean that she is all of those things but it is one of the red flags in a girl to look out for. It’s difficult for people to break out of the habit of phone face-burying when they’re so used to it; so be careful.
She Doesn’t Make Time For You
Speaking of being on your phone every waking moment, not making any time for you is another one of those red flags in a girl that you’ll notice sooner or later. It will become obvious that she never makes time for you then you realize that she never asks about you, there’s rarely any downtime when it’s just the two of you in a room together, and she never initiates quality time spent between the two of you.
If you’ve ever been in a loving relationship with a girl you’ll know she loves you because she actually wants to spend time with you. I’m the luckiest guy on planet Earth because my girlfriend is always coming up with places for us to go. A few days ago out of the blue she was like, ‘we’re going on a date to Mochinut tonight’, as she proceeds to dress up in date-worthy attire. We bought six Mochinuts and three cheesy corn dogs as we stood in the shop and talked about Goodwill and space rocks.
What it comes down to is that you need to be self aware and notice when someone wants to spend time with you or not. Even though not making time for you is one of the red flags in a girl, it may also be that you two are just not compatible. If she wants to be around other people more than you then you two may not be a good match.
Only Dresses Up For Others and Not You
This doesn’t mean that your girlfriend or significant other needs to be in a fresh fit every time y’all step out the door, it’s just a balance thing. If there’s an obvious pattern of not dressing up when you go places that deserve nice clothing and then dressing up when she goes to the same places with other people then maybe you should be concerned.
It’s concerning enough to make the list of red flags in a girl because it means that she doesn’t want to look good for you and with you. If your girlfriend isn’t trying to impress you on occasion and always dresses like a fourteenth century beggar in a potato sack then she may not find you very attractive or appealing. It’s just a good thing to do in a relationship to look good around your person, it shows that you care about them and value their opinion.
If she dresses up when going out with you when it matters then you’re chilling. Don’t be that insecure guy who complains when she doesn’t get fancied up for every outing. Sometimes, you just want to be cozy and go out in pajamas and slippers; I know my girl dresses for comfort 87% of the time which is fine with me.
She Never Opens Up or Communicates With You
I would consider it one of the bigger red flags in a girl when she never opens up to you, because in my experience, girls are very emotionally sharing creatures, especially if they’re comfortable around you. If she never opens up and talks about herself around you, maybe she doesn’t see the point in doing so; which is your sign to either try harder or get the heck out of there!
If your relationship is in a rut you’ll want to get that worked out, but that’s a topic for another article and your therapist.
She Has No Ambitions or Goals in Life
Everyone has their own preferences and personality traits that they desire in a partner. Not everyone wants or needs their partner to have lofty goals or really any goals at all, but for me, it’s very attractive when my partner has goals and aspirations.
That really means just working on anything at all, just doing something that you’re passionate about with goals in mind. That’s another huge thing, having goals. If she has no goals, that’s where the red flag enters the chat.
I see a lack of ambition as one of the red flags in a girl because it can cause a myriad of problems down the line in the relationship.
You might become resentful towards her because you feel like you’re the only one growing and putting in effort. Maybe you can cover all of the financials at the moment, but if poop hits the fan and your partner lacks the ambition to bring home a sufficient salary then you’ll both suffer. Also, her lack of growth itself can cause the relationship to stop growing; if only one person is growing then it can create an imbalance.
Gaslights, Manipulates, and Guilt Trips You
This is one of the most important red flags in a girl that when you realize she makes it a habit of doing these things, it’s time for you to skedaddle. Get out before it gets worse and you waste any more time with the manipulator.
The fastest way to know that someone doesn’t love you is to realize that they constantly lie and try to make you feel like a horrible person. Maybe she loves you in some sort of weird and possessive way but that’s not real love.
If you often question your sanity and are made out to be a villain from the One Piece (Arlong) over every disagreement then you might be the victim of consistent gas-lighting. You should be able to discern when you’re being unfairly treated and you must listen to your gut that’s telling you she’s nuts. At that point, wade through the sea of red flags on the floor that she threw at you and place yourself through the door and into a location where she’s not.
Acts Inappropriately Towards Others
What is emotional cheating and even cheating for some is considered okay for others. But, for the most part, if your girl sexts and flirts with other people, especially in front of you, she is spawning red flags out the top of her head.
I don’t really want to get too in detail about this particular topic of red flags in a girl this time around, mostly because it’s self explanatory and much doesn’t need to be said about it. If she acts towards others in a way that makes you uncomfortable, after knowing that it makes you uncomfortable, that’s one of the big red flags in a girl to watch out for.
Red Flags in a Girl Conclusion
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Have fun in your relationships, don’t forget to treat it like it’s the beginning of your relationship every day and do the things that you did in the beginning. Go out on dates and show random affection to your partner. Have a good one until next time, homies.
-Cross
