I witness so many introverted people being worried that they’ll be alone forever, that there’s no hope for them, and think they have no idea how to get a girlfriend. I get it, when you’re unable to obtain something for a long period of time you start to feel like it’s hopeless. Usually it’s just because you’re unlucky or haven’t looked in the right places yet, or haven’t been looking using the correct methods to find what you seek.
Many things that we perceive to be unobtainable or very difficult to obtain aren’t as difficult to get as we think; and that applies to the question of how to get a girlfriend as an introvert. Because look around you, there are many other self-proclaimed introverts who have girlfriends, fast cars, juicy and phat bank accounts, and more; so it is possible for you too!
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Dating Applications
The reputation of dating apps is down in the gutter at the moment, but they can still be a viable method used on how to get a girlfriend as an introvert. They’re great because everyone knows why you’re on there already, to date, or at least to find some form of intimacy. Some people are there to get more intimate than others (Netflix and chill), but another good thing about dating apps is that you can chat with the other person before meeting them to get a feel for them and what their intentions are.
What it comes down to for how to get a girlfriend successfully from a dating app is choosing the right dating app. Many dating apps are hot garbage, some are okay, and then there are some more just okay ones. I don’t think that any dating apps are very solid, because the natural enemy of dating are scammers, bots, and fake profiles. Never trust that who you are talking to is who they say they are until you can somehow verify it.
I would still recommend that you use Tinder based off its pure popularity and high population of users. I do not recommend using Plenty of Fish anymore, the amount of fake female profiles to real profiles is astounding. OkCupid is a good choice, as is Bumble and Hinge. Don’t even bother with Badoo unless you want every ‘girl’ that you talk to to be hiding a pork sausage in their pants.
You’ll find more people who are looking for actual relationships on OkCupid and Hinge compared to Tinder. If that’s your priority, rather than having sheer quantity of women to scroll through, then use OkCupid or Hinge over Tinder. Better yet, use every dating app at the same time and statistically you’ll have a better chance at landing yourself a girlfriend than if you only use one.
My girlfriend’s best friend found her most recent boyfriend on Bumble and says that Bumble is a pretty good dating app; there’s at least one real girl who uses Bumble confirmed. Bumble is also pretty popular nowadays because they’ve been running a lot of ad campaigns with.
College
This method of how to get a girlfriend, of course, is really only an option if you’re attending college. You could always be that weird crusty guy walking around the college campus pretending like you go there when you don’t really go there but that’s up to you. If you passed on the whole college thing because you were afraid of interacting with the public I’d urge you to yolo it and get a degree because you don’t want any regrets when you’re old and crusty.
College is a great option for answering your question of how to get a girlfriend as an introvert because you’re forced to exist around other females. Sometimes your professor may even place you into a group with females and at that point you’re might even end up talking to them. That is not your queue to become creepy and instantly start gunning for a relationship with the female in closest proximity to you. The point is, sometimes things gradually progress into a relationship if that’s the vibe that develops over time after you get to know each other.
College solves the problem of finding girls to talk to which is the first step on how to get a girlfriend as an introvert. I just want to stress again that you should not make it your primary mission to jump into a relationship with girls that you happen to meet and talk to at college. That’s just straight up weird and you need to make sure you find the person who’s right for you, as well. Unless you’re Robert Pattinson, it doesn’t really bode well to act flirtatious with every girl that you come into contact with.
Join some clubs, attend a few parties, maybe even join a sorority. I know, I know, you just had a thought of disgust at the mention of sorority. That’s not something that us introverts are all about. There will be many chances for you to meet potential girlfriends if you go to newfound friends’ houses and school clubs. I understand that parties and clubs might be difficult for an introvert, but one outing a week may be doable for you. I know that I’m able to touch grass every now and again as long as I get at least five consecutive days to recharge afterward.
Clubs such as the anime club, Yu-Gi-Oh! club, robotics, chess, and literature clubs might have exactly the type of people that you’d fit in with. You might also meet people as you walk from class to class and see them repeatedly every day, or even at the library if you choose to study there often. Often times there will be insufferable professors who will force you to form groups in your classes so you might become friends with a girl through that.
Video Games
Believe it or not, it is possible to find a girlfriend through the world of online video games. Girls do play video games, and the kind of girl who plays video games is usually the type of girl that you want to get to know.
You can meet a potential girlfriend in the voice chat, lobby, or even text chat of a video game. Again, you should search for friendships that naturally happen before you attempt to get into anything resembling a relationship. If you find yourself in a hype game of Minecraft Hunger Games where there’s a girl on your team and you vibe it in the text chat with your slick pixel creating fingers maybe you invite her to another game or send a friend request and game with her later, just the two of you (wink wink). That’s how connections are formed.
I’ve crossed paths with plenty of girls in the past from playing video games such as League of Legends, Minecraft, CS:GO, and others, they’re out there (gamer girls). And I’ve become legitimate friends with a few of those girls, it just happens if you play enough online video games.
Video games are a viable option for how to get a girlfriend as an introvert if you’re having fun, are patient, and a bit lucky. You can also join video game related Discord servers and there will be plenty of females in those. Just make sure that you don’t blindly trust people when they tell you things online about themselves. And just because they have an anime girl as a profile picture does not mean that they are a human female.
Social Media
I mentioned Discord previously, which is one good social media avenue for how to get a girlfriend as an introvert. You can join a few random servers and start participating in them to get to know some of the members. Once again, do not be creepy about this whole thing. Remember, you’re here to make genuine connections, friends, and have a good time!
The girlfriend part just comes naturally after that. That is not to say that you can’t actively try to get to know girls; as that’s kind of the objective here. On Discord you should join the voice chats that happen all the time in most servers and partake in the degenerate conversations that take place in them. Joining the voice chats can be a blast and a great way to meet new people.
I understand that as an introvert, you may have a hard time joining voice chats, especially ones that contain females because many introverts can be intimidated by them; both the voice chats and the girls. It’s fine if you just use the text chats to meet people, I would even recommend that you join servers that are specifically meant for introverts or even people with social anxiety, they’re out there and there are some large ones.
Discord aside, Reddit, and even Instagram can be a tool for how to get a girlfriend as an introvert. There are certain subreddits such as r4r and dating advice that are good for people struggling with the question of how to get a girlfriend. R4r will actually allow you to find a girl to talk to and hang out with which is exactly what you’re looking for.
As for Instagram, look through your friends list. Maybe there is a girl on there who you used to know back in high school or college that you haven’t talked to in a long time. Sometimes reaching out to old friends can lead to something romantic if you get to talking and feelings start to develop.
How to get a Girlfriend at The Gym
This might not be the thing that you want to hear, but I’m going to play the evil guy and tell you that you should one hundred percent start going to the gym; even as an introvert who enjoys alone time. The gym is one of those places where you can become familiar with people over time because you attend it regularly. It’ll also increase your confidence as your physique improves, c’mon, everyone can use some extra confidence.
The physical and mental boons that the gym provides may even translate into you having an easier time talking to girls and help plant a girlfriend into your life.
Let’s talk about what goes into the idea of how to get a girlfriend at the gym as an introvert. There is definitely a right way and a wrong way to go about finding a girlfriend at the gym. In fact, there are many wrong ways you can go about answering your question of how to get a girlfriend by use of the gym.
I wouldn’t recommend you walk up to a girl as she’s veins popping leg-pressing and tell her that you admire her glutes. Unless you’re Brad Pitt and she’s on shrooms, it probably won’t go over well, especially if the girl has no idea who you are. You might think that you need to find girls to compliment, forget about it. Don’t hit on girls at the gym; you absolute nuisance mosquito gonad. Befriend some girls if the situation arises, sure.
I personally despise when anyone at all speaks to me at the gym. The gym is a place for me to turn up the volume on my ear buds, stare at myself in the mirror as I do bicep curls, and stay in my own world. No everyone’s like me, but I don’t think that most girls go to the gym to get their DMS blown up in real life.
The gym relationships that I’ve heard about and witnessed all start because two people have gotten to know each other slowly over time because you both attend the same gym often. The ball might start rolling because you ask her if you can borrow one of the 2.5lb plates on her rack because yours doesn’t have any. Then y’all get to a point where you nod or greet each other in passing, and then eventually you engage in regular casual conversation.
At that point you are probably what is know as ‘friends’ with this girl. And now you’ve finished your mission of how to get a girlfriend. If you want to know how to not be a screw up after you snag yourself one of these elusive ‘girlfriends’, check out my other article about how to be a good boyfriend.
