Very wordy article title, I know! What I’m talking about today is the topic of how long does a honeymoon phase last for a couple who was previously in a long distance relationship but has now closed the gap and is living with one another, or is much closer in distance than previously.
And in 2025, we’ve all heard of it, a relationship’s honeymoon phase. Maybe you’re in the honeymoon phase currently, or are simply curious about your future honeymoon phase, and now asking, ‘how long does a honeymoon phase last’? The answer to that could probably be summed up in two simple and boring words, “it depends”. But that’s actually super boring so let’s break down that ‘depends’ into something meaningful that you can gain some insight from.
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How Long Will My Long-Distance Relationship Honeymoon Phase Last
I believe that the honeymoon phase can play out a little differently for those coming out of long-distance relationships, as opposed to those who aren’t. If you’re in a ‘normal’ relationship where you’re within a reasonable drive to your partner, and your relationship is not long distance, you generally start out with a clean slate regarding that person. By that, I mean that you both start your relationship while not knowing a whole lot about the other person. Sure, you will know the basics, and hopefully the important stuff, but that’s about it. At the beginning of the relationship you both are making many different discoveries about the other person, so everything is so fresh and new.
Before a long distance couple finally closes the gap and starts their ‘real’ relationship, you pretty much already know each other’s life story. It’s a good thing in a way because it does make things so much easier and smoother when the in-person relationship begins.
But because of this, I think that long-distance people can find themselves having a shorter honeymoon phase than others. Of course, this differs from couple to couple but I feel like you settle into the groove of a calm and stable relationship much more quickly than you would otherwise. You’ve had months and possibly years to learn so much about your partner over that long distance. You will meet each other while already knowing what she or he likes to eat at midnight or whether they wipe standing up or sitting down, all of those intimate details.
Don’t worry about this knowledge put a damper on your expectations for your own long distance relationship. Initially meeting your partner and the following weeks will probably blow your mind; If all goes well, you will click just as much in person, if not even more so than you did online. It can take some time, a few days or so, to fully warm up to your partner, but once you do, it’ll feel just like it did during long distance, and then even better because you can actually give them a big fat hug.
I just wouldn’t want to discourage any of you long-distance lovers out there by stating that your honeymoon phase might not last as long as a regular honeymoon phase. I’m sure it won’t bother y’all, you’re going to try to make things work no matter what I say. But like I said, it depends on your guys’ specific circumstances, because it is important to note that some honeymoon phases can last years in general. It is believed that the average honeymoon phase may last anywhere from six months to two years. It’s great to know that us long-distance relationship folks can have a honeymoon phase that lasts longer than six months, I’m one example of that.
My Personal Experience on the Long Distance Relationship Honeymoon Phase
I don’t know when my honeymoon phase will be over; it still feels so exciting to be with her all of the time and I rarely want to be away from her unless I need a short introvert break. We’re usually fawning over one another, cuddling for an hour a day, minimum! And so I do believe that our honeymoon phase is still happening to some extent (maybe heading towards the tail end of it), almost two years later.
I can’t speak for her here, but I am a little curious how she feels about us being in a honeymoon phase or not. She may feel like things have slowed down quite a lot, or not, I’m not sure. I said that our honeymoon phase is still happening to ‘some extent’, which I phrased it like that because I remember how things were in the beginning, and when comparing that to right now, our actions are not quite at the same level of fervor.
Honeymoon phases for me in the past have only lasted a couple of months at best; and those were not even long distance relationships, whereas my current relationship is, and this one has the longest honeymoon phase! That sorta goes against what I was saying earlier about long distance relationship honeymoon phases being shorter, but it really depends on the specific relationship.
My honeymoon phase now is probably lasting such a long time because I love my ‘long distance turned short distance’ partner so dearly and we’re so similar as people. We just work so well, never really get tired of one another or anything. We laugh at the same dumb crap, agree on most important topics, and even find one another very attractive as a bonus! It’s for these reasons and more that our honeymoon phase is lasting for the better part of two years.
Hopefully this brings you long-distance relationship people a bit of hope, knowing that it’s possible to have many exciting months and years ahead when you finally close your long-distance gap.
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How To Tell When The Honeymoon Phase is Over
Ahem, anyways, I don’t expect that the honeymoon phase will last forever, nor do I think that it should last forever or that that’s normal at all. Just because that phase is over, doesn’t mean that the love that you have for each other suddenly plummets to the dumps. What it really means is that your relationship has evolved into something much more sturdy and lasting. You’ve weathered multiple storms among sunny days, dealt with a great deal of strong emotional outbursts, had important conversations, and made it past the first stage of your relationship.
There will still be many things that happen which will challenge your relationship and your teamwork, but now you two have somewhat of a foundation to work on. The strong love should still there, but you aren’t wearing any rose-tinted glasses at this point.
I wouldn’t say that you just wake up one day and suddenly your honeymoon phase is over. I mean, technically, that is what happens when your honeymoon phase crosses that ambiguous invisible line that separates a relationship with a honeymoon phase and one that doesn’t have a honeymoon phase. That was pretty wordy, what I’m saying is that it’s not a hard stop, the ending of the honeymoon phase can happen over the course of a few days, to a few weeks, possibly even months.
There are a few different signs that signal the end, or near end of the honeymoon phase in your relationship. One thing that I think happens is that y’all start to seriously think about deeper topics instead of only focusing on the here and now. You will start to envision a life with this person, a future. Discussions like where y’all want to end up working, dream locations to live, end goals in life, how many kids do you really want to have. I think that a lot of these questions can come up during the honeymoon phase, but they’re said during the honeymoon phase and the real and actual thoughts might not emerge until later on.
You might’ve said how you want five kids together but now you really only want one kid, or you were okay living where you’re at but, now really thinking about it, you want to live in Los Angeles instead (ew). Now one of you is talking about how you want to move to a place that’s closer to their parents; I think that these topics start to come up when the honeymoon phase is coming down.
Final Thoughts on The Length of The Honeymoon Phase
In the first place, if you’re worried about the honeymoon phase not lasting very long or being too short, I think it’s important to know that the honeymoon phase being over is not a bad thing whatsoever. It’s not like you’re missing anything, you don’t even realize that it’s over, and when it is over all you’re doing is living life as per usual and participating in a very loving and fun relationship. Yes, fun can still be had without some silly honeymoon title guiding you along.
And if your relationship sucks without a honeymoon phase, then there is definitely some re-evaluating for y’all both to do. If your relationship is extremely bland after the honeymoon phase is over, then you’ll have to put in the work to spice it up again, because a good relationship really takes some elbow grease. If you’re reading this and are still in your long-distance phase, I have some ideas for you to help keep things spicy, speaking of spiciness.
Whether your honeymoon phase lasts for one month or two years, just enjoy it while it lasts and let things play out naturally. You can’t force a honeymoon phase, it’s simply a phase of a relationship and occurs when two people have caught major feelings for one another. Take some hope from my situation where we have a very long honeymoon phase coming out of a long-distance relationship and that if you and your partner go well together then you can enjoy many months of bliss together.
