No one’s ever going to be the perfect boyfriend, except of course myself, but you should put in effort to be a good partner and not a hot, steaming, piece of fecal matter of a boyfriend. Every so often I notice myself beginning to tread on the dirty brown trail of bad boyfriendism and remind myself of my ideals, mentally punch myself in the face, and return to normal. This, obviously, goes both ways and should not be a one sided thing. That being said, this article is going to go over the recipe of specifically how to be a good boyfriend. Sometimes you might unknowingly act like a piece of moldy garbage towards your partner and you’ve got to cut that crap out.
My girlfriend and I just got back from the gym where we witnessed an interesting fight between a couple occur in front of us as we did our pre-workout chill in the car session as we drink our highly caffeinated drinks. A couple was walking back to their car in front of us and as they arrived at their car they were screaming at each other and the boyfriend angrily hopped into the driver’s seat and attempted to close the door quickly even though her arm was about to get smushed in it. She yelled some more and then flung herself into the back seat of the car like a whirlwind and the guy drove off instantly like a madman. They drove a small distance before aggressively stopping as my girlfriend and I watched in slight bewilderment.
We started to talk about how it’s nice that our arguments aren’t as bad as that. Our arguments are more like controlled disagreements; they’re relatively calm and sometimes loud disagreements that stem from being two different people. Those two probably just don’t like each other very much, and should rethink their position in life right now and wonder if they’re really happy with this person. What could the boyfriend have done better in that situation? Maybe he should have locked the doors as soon as he got into the car and slowly drove away like nothing happened without looking back at the girl. No but seriously, I believe that there’s not an argument to be had where the boyfriend is fine be acting that way to a partner that he loves.
How to be a Good Boyfriend Guide
A good boyfriend should never do things to intentionally harm his partner, that is both emotionally and physically (which I hope is a given!). I couldn’t imagine wanting to inflict any sort of pain upon my girlfriend, such as to make her feel bad about herself or something she’s done, for example. I do witness her get hurt sometimes due to random baloney thrown at her by the universe but we’re only human and the human mind is an enigma. In these cases, one should not ever blame their partner for their crappy state of being and swiftly move into comfort mode. It’s up to both of you to figure out the best ways to comfort your partner.
There’s this crazy thing called communication and it’s a two way street in relationships; use it for everything that you’re unsure about.
The point is, you should not intentionally want to or try to upset your partner under any circumstances. Always, always look out for yourself as well, that is part of how to be a good boyfriend. Don’t hold feelings inside because you feel some type of way and are too afraid to communicate them in case you upset your partner.
It’s the little things, grabbing something out of her hands to hold it as she reaches for something, getting a piece of dirt out of her hair, bringing her some vitamins. If there is a lack of things like this coming from you as the boyfriend, it will eventually be felt in the relationship. There are certain days where you might find it very difficult to mentally be present or to just be your usual self. It is very important when this happens to do your very best to communicate that you aren’t feeling very good at the moment and to not lash out or bottle up your feelings only for them to release themselves unpleasantly. During times like this, if you still manage to be there for your partner and walk up to her with kisses at random times then I commend you and you’re on a good path of boyfriendism (my new word) already.
To be more specific on that last point, let me give you a list of examples of things that you might do to show your appreciation and love for your partner. Bring them home a little something something after you go somewhere alone. Doesn’t matter if you’ve been gone for three days or an hour; heck, if you bring me back an unsolicited Arizona tea and a pack of skittles after you went to the post office I’m going to the engagement ring store after I’m done eating. In addition to small gifts, you can open the car door for him or her, write cute little love letters, give them a massage, make them breakfast in bed, and many more nice gestures.
If I may even be so bold to point you to our shop where you could purchase a set of matching jewelry that you could gift to your other half. Especially if your partner’s love language is gift-receiving, you’ll find that gifting physical objects is essential on the quest of how to be a good boyfriend.
Don’t flirt/dote over other females or males; and respect your partner’s boundaries. These two things go hand in hand. There’s no reason to go out of your way to be overly friendly with members of your preferred gender if it is something that makes your partner uncomfortable. Many girlfriends don’t want to hear about their man suddenly having a ‘work-wife’ or hear about how amazing your friend Jessica is at playing the ukulele.
If you’re unaware of what your partner’s boundaries are, or if there really are any at all, go ahead and ask. It’s best to know this stuff before a disaster strikes. It’s also on them to tell you what their boundaries are as well, so it’s not your entire fault if you cross one of their unheard-of boundaries.
The answer to the question of how to be a good boyfriend involves you taking the initiative to show your appreciation, adoration, and love for your partner through the art of complimenting. A genuine compliment is such a gift that can magic a smile onto someone’s face straight away and it deepens the level of communication that y’all already operate on. To be effective, your compliments should be real, and focused on qualities that go beyond superficial traits. For example, instead of a basic complement such as “You look nice today,” you might say something like, “Seeing your intense passion that you put into your hobbies is incredibly attractive, babe.” Such a personalized complement acknowledges her efforts and qualities that make her unique.
You should be consistent but not excessive; too many compliments can come off as insincere and lessen the impact of your complements when you do give them. Make sure that you actively listen to your partner, notice the little things, and when she achieves something, whether it’s a professional milestone or a personal goal, be her absolute number one cheerleader. Remember, the best compliments often come from observing the little things that make her who she is and letting her know that you actually notice and admire those qualities. I’m speaking as if you are the boyfriend to a female which is just for the sake of this example about compliments. You may very well be the boyfriend of a dude and the same concepts would still apply to you.
Listen! Not to me, to her (or him)! It’s only the least you could do to actually listen to your partner. Don’t let things go in one ear and out the next, but actually remember what they say to you in case it becomes important later. If you don’t already enjoy listening to your partner, there might already be a serious issue with the relationship that you have to hammer out. How does it feel for you when someone brings something up that you talked about days ago, it feels good that they remembered right? Treat your partner with the same courtesy and they will definitely appreciate it.
Maybe you thought the title of this article was just a figure of speech? Not really, it’s important that you also take care of yourself if you want to know the secrets of how to be a good boyfriend. That means, wash and clean your body regularly. Why would you want your partner to physically recoil from you if you bend the wrong way one time and she accidentally gets a whiff of something rancid? You’ll end up stumbling across her Reddit account where she’s creating threads in r/advice on what to do about her smelly boyfriend who only showers once a week.
Showering is just the bare minimum, in my opinion. I think that you should do the little things such as skin care, hair care, dress nicely, and of course taking care of your teeth. Some might say, ‘well, if she really loved me then she wouldn’t care about that stuff’. It’s still a disservice to your partner to not give a crap about yourself. Even if they would still love you, they would prefer you put in effort and didn’t have to hold their breath around you; or even worse, become your mother or father.
If your partner is the only one who makes plans and suggests that y’all go out somewhere fun, you’re doing it wrong; plan dates! Your partner does not want to feel like the only one who makes plans for y’all. It shows that you might not care too much about the relationship, or even your partner’s happiness. I understand that going out might not be for everyone, I’m an introvert myself, but if you two enjoy having experiences together then as the boyfriend you should also be making plans.
Last but not least, trust your partner. If you lack trust in your partner, you’ll end up acting out and questioning their motives for perfectly normal things. If your partner thinks that you don’t trust them it is actually hurtful and makes you seem insecure. Insecurity is a huge turn off for many people especially when it starts to cause problems in the relationship. All of this is assuming that your partner is worthy of trust. If they’re not worthy of trust, that’s an issue for another article and y’all have to figure that out.
How to be a Good Boyfriend Conclusion
I hope that you were able to take away one or two things here that assist help you on your quest of how to be a good boyfriend. Put these things into effect without telling your partner that you’re researching them and watch them be amazed. I’m sure there’s a direct correlation in their level of amazement at your newfound boyfriend-ing skills and how crappy of a boyfriend you currently are. Good luck out there, you won’t really need it if you change your ways.
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Hey people!!!!!
Good mood and good luck to everyone!!!!!
Hey people!!!!!
Good mood and good luck to everyone!!!!!